But helping my mom was the least I could do to make her happy. Skype-ing with my dad is considered a privilege since we only get to see him and be with him for 2 months every year. I wonder how my parents keep their relationship healthy despite the fact that the time that they are together is much, much shorter compared to the time that they are apart when studies show that even the smallest things such as long commutes could lead to divorce. This will forever be a mystery.
In an article entitled, "Your Commute Can Improve Your Relationship", author Robert S. Wyer stated that couples who travel in the same direction are more positive about each other than those who don't. Which makes sense because a relationship is also a partnership; and you wouldn't be partners if you're not after the same thing, right?
"People who commuted in the same direction as their husbands or wives were happier with their relationships than people who didn't. We think that's because moving in a similar direction symbolizes the pursuit of similar goals.", said Wyer.
Science taught us that opposites attract. They do; but not always. When it comes to relationships and goals, opposites repel. I mean, would you expect me to support victim-blaming when I'm against victim-blaming? No. Don't. Go fuck yourself. Literally.
In the same article, Wyer stated that marital dissatisfaction is determined by many things that are far more important. You could be in the exact situation but that doesn't mean that that's the only reason for your falling marriage. Smoking can cause lung cancer, but that doesn't mean that all smokers get the disease.
Enough about break-ups because there is actually a way to save your relationship. According to this article, "Could A Shorter Commute Save Your Relationship?", author Dharmesh Shah said that it possibly could!
"Long commutes are stressful, especially when heavy traffic and frequent delays are involved. It's hard for anyone to walk in the door happy when they've done everything but play bumper cars on the freeway for an hour.", said Shah.
Okay, so he didn't exactly say that short commutes could save relationships but it's obviously what he's trying to imply. When your commute is shorter, it gives you less time for travel and more for family. And time is the glue that holds relationships together. Long commutes take away time- that is lost forever, for our loved ones.
So if you were, for example, asked to choose between a job that's farther but pays higher and a job that's nearer but pays lower, think hard about the trade-off between money and time for your family. You might find it hard to let the opportunity go, but you will always regret the time with your loved ones that slipped away.
If you don't have a choice, though, and a long commute is your only option, better do what you can to make the rest of the time at home count.
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